Tag: Thoughts create things

Success • • • • • By Christina de Valencia 0 Comments

I know you think you can’t change your life…………..

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After I wrote Hope and New Beginnings, I felt that there was more to say.

There is so much mystery and concern about attitudes, thoughts and beliefs. You wonder if you can ever change anything if certain thoughts have dominated your way of thinking for so long. Regardless of your efforts to think good thoughts, the old ones creep right back in on you.

As if that wasn’t enough, you question if you are good enough to deserve better, worthy enough of love, friends, health, or wealth? You ask yourself if you sufficiently appreciate what you already have. And then, oh boy, can you even learn to love yourself?

Here’s the good news: These things don’t have to come first. I was told: “You don’t have to wear a halo to manifest the changes you want.” Isn’t that the truth! There are plenty of people out there who aren’t all that good and have everything they want.

So, when those negative thoughts sneak back in, when those old beliefs re-assert themselves, and we’ve established that they will……………….Keep visualizing, keep imagining!!! Because your subconscious mind processes so much faster than your conscious mind.

Did you get that? Your subconscious processes faster and more thoroughly than your conscious mind! That’s huge. That is the way out.

It’s about repetition!!!

What are those negative beliefs, but repetitive thoughts, things you’ve learned, notions you have become familiar with. Changing them requires that same repeated process. Stay with it and things WILL have to change. It is a universal, spiritual law.

Here’s a little trick: Make flashcards about your negative, stressful thoughts, your anxiety producing moments….anticipate them. Get to know them. Write those situations on the front of your flashcards. Be descriptive, get into it, feel the emotions!

Then on the back write your solutions, your plan of attack, your positive visualization. When your mind goes into that downward spiral, when you forget that there is another way, when you can’t locate those positive thoughts, you will have your solution right there in front of you this time. Now that you are ready for those situations they will gradually lose their power over you.  You will be prepared, you will have a way out this time.

It’s simply a matter of understanding that if you do your part: visualize, prepare the way, and act “as if,” without looking over your shoulder for quick results, what you want must be added unto you… as will the feelings of worthiness, appreciation and loving your most lovable self.

Thoughts become things… choose the good ones!

If you need help, email christina@christinadevalencia.com

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Success • • • • By Christina de Valencia 0 Comments

Failure = Success.

I think this is worth retelling:

Why would I make such a statement?  Because it’s true!

The truth is, actually, that there is no failure, remember?  But for the sake of this conversation, we’ll use the word.

So failure is doing something and not having it work out, or turn out, as you expected.  It can be going for a job interview and not getting it, starting to clean out the garage and not finishing it, beginning a relationship and having it end, maybe before it even really got started at all.

Your ability to allow yourself to fail absolutely defines and creates your ability to succeed.  Here’s why…

When you lose the fear of failing and determine that you will stay focused on what you want, no matter what (possibly failing multiple times), you continue to move forward.  With each ‘failure’ you gather further information; maybe an employer or a certain job takes a certification or some other training.  Now you can take the new information and choose to either get what is needed, or choose to go in a different direction.  Either way, you are choosing a solution, and moving forward!  Maybe you determine that cleaning out the garage needs to be done in sections, allowing yourself more than one day, you create a ‘schedule’ to get it done; you create a better solution with the information that the ‘failure’ has given you.  You will begin to align yourself to what you want.  And this can be applied to many areas of your life.

Now I could say it’s the law of averages, meaning that the more attempts you make at something the better the odds of you attaining what you want, and that does play a part, but it’s the energy behind that statement that allows it to work.

This is why:  As you continue to gather further information with each attempt, you are honing your ‘asking’; you are further defining what it is that you want.  Maybe you thought you wanted a certain type of person in a relationship, or you wanted a certain type of job, only to find that you are changing your parameters after collecting more information; you don’t want what you thought you did!  This new information is allowing you to begin to line up with what you do want.

The more you are willing to fail, the more information you are collecting; the more you are defining, and re-defining, what you want.  Imagine, if you are less willing to risk the fear of failing, then you will move more slowly toward your goal; possibly you won’t move at all!  Staying stuck and letting fear ‘drive your bus’, ruining all of your fun, is simply not an option!  Re-write your thoughts about what you think you are ‘failing’ at.  If you went on a job interview and didn’t get the job, you have a choice in how to think about it.  You can think, ‘I don’t like those people’ spinning negativity throughout your day and reality and job search, or you can say, ‘Oh well, that didn’t feel good and it wasn’t for me, and I know because everything that is meant for me comes with ease’.  That provides a release of all negative energy, and now you are ready to face many interviews, collect more and more information, until you create the perfect opportunity.  This does take listening to yourself, both to see what thoughts are creating a negative vibe and to figure out a solution; to figure out a new direction or new goal.

So, Failure is the gateway to Success.  Get on the bike, know that you may fall off in order to learn how to ride it!

As written by Vicki Murphy, BFA, RMPT, IEP

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