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Happiness Mindfulness acceptance • enjoyment • Gratitude • Happiness • mindfulness • mindfulness meditation • mindfulness practice • mindfulness training • mindfulness workshop • money • peace • Self-improvement • self-pity • stop doing • Stress April 15, 2015 By Christina de Valencia 0 Comments

Oh That Elusive HAPPINESS

The Art of Happiness. If it doesn’t come naturally, we have to help it along.

Sometimes when nothing seems to go right, Stop!!………Stop all the frantic activity and go DO something you like.

I’m sure you have been told that when you are constantly busy, running around taking care of stuff, nothing changes, nothing new can come in. Your mind is not at peace, your body is stressed out, your emotions are on edge and everywhere you turn presents you with another roadblock.

A glass of wine is good, but maybe not in the morning.

Meditation will definitely get you on a better track, but it seems at times it’s nearly impossible to just sit down and get quiet.

Your mind is racing, your adrenaline is high and the last thing you can imagine is sitting still. That’s why it’s sometimes more productive to do something you really enjoy to get back to a happier place, to find your happiness.

I love to do physical stuff, like painting walls or furniture, digging in the garden, building a little table, fixing something, creating wood-art, practicing yoga or taking a walk on the beach.

You don’t have a moment to stop and spend time “goofing off”, you say? Really? Will you have the time to get sick, have a mental break-down or at the very least get into disagreements with your loved ones? We really all do have time to stop every once in a while.

We have to prioritize. What is more important in this moment: What we are doing or our sanity?

Do something you enjoy!

Your kids can miss a soccer game once in a while. If you don’t make it to the grocery store after work, you won’t starve. Your spouse can take care of that task without you. If you don’t have a spouse, leave it for another day (it works for Latinos….manana). Ask someone for help. People really do want to help, as long as you don’t abuse it.

I have a couple of rental homes and one of them had a serious roof-leak. It literally rains in. The tenant had to put some pots and pans out to catch the drips. This stresses me out to the max. The thought of the tenant being upset, the damage the water is causing, the expense……on and on. In the meantime, I can’t get a hold of the roofer. It won’t stop raining (I’m in NC right now). But, I suddenly realize, I have absolutely no control over this at the moment. I already left a message for the roofer. I apologized to the tenant. “Money comes easily and frequently” (my favorite mantra).

It was out of my hands.

Still tense, I located my paintbrush, pulled out that new can of paint and started painting my bathroom.

My mind calmed down in minutes, a space opened up for better thoughts, my breathing regulated…..all without me having to work hard at it. That’s the best part! I am tired of working so hard at everything. Aren’t you?

Then I remembered three things that always shift the energy and open the door for happiness:

1. Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself!

Self-pity is the very worst kind of emotion. It kinda sneaks in there and before you know it you are all about it. It destroys everything around itself, and leaves you feeling powerless.

Stop being the victim, stop feeling sorry for yourself – and be happy.

2. Be Grateful

Life is so fast-paced that we rarely recognize and acknowledge the wonder of it all.

Think of all the things you’re grateful for right now: family, health, home, your puppy, your red shoes, the grass, the sunshine, everything. Spend time being grateful each day – and be happy.

3. Accept What Is

We frequently resist what is. Just say “Yes!” more to all of life’s experiences. Don’t fight the river’s current. Say “Yes!” more to emotions, situations, social invitations, adventures – and be happy.

Before I knew it I was smiling. Happiness……………it’s a process, not a destination.

To Your Happiness, with Love

Mindfulness Psych-K Counseling • intention • meditation • mindfulness • mindfulness meditation • mindfulness practice • mindfulness training • mindfulness workshop • positive thinking • psych-K • self-help • Self-improvement • sexual healing • vision board • workshops March 25, 2015 By Christina de Valencia 0 Comments

Positive Pitfalls and I’ll tell you Why!

Thinking positive is a great start, but it will not always get you what you desire.

Do you think there has to be more than the law of attraction, positive thinking,Vision-boards, meditation, workshops and willpower??

You’ve done it all! Positive thinking, affirmations, talk therapy and you’ve read all the self-help books you could get your hands on.

Is it working for you?

Honestly!!

If you are like me and all the people I have spoken to….. NO, it isn’t working.

You probably know more about yourself (and others) than ever before. You know what you should do. You know how you should think and act. You have gathered enough wisdom and knowledge to write your own book.

Yet…..

The instructions don’t seem to be clear. Somehow it isn’t coming together.

You believe that you are a spiritual being having a human experience.

You visualize that promotion, put it on your vision-board, practice in front of the mirror, set the intention prior to your meditation, you try to surrender…….and still ……nothing.

You wonder, does it work for others? It must! Maybe something is wrong with you.

NO, it isn’t you!

Your subconscious beliefs are the culprit.

That is the only thing that has not been addressed: the part of your mind that stores the beliefs programmed during your childhood. Beliefs that may be limiting you now.

The fact is, we don’t get what we deserve, we get what we believe we deserve.

You may disagree, saying that you make conscious decisions. You choose to eat the right foods, pick the smart, successful guy or sweet woman, think logically about what to say, your decisions are based on intelligent research…..I’m here to tell you there is more at work than your conscious effort!

Have you ever noticed patterns in your behavior? Are you consistently reacting angry, frustrated, submissive, helpless toward others or situations. Maybe you are never getting that promotion regardless of your efforts. Never feeling quite like you belong, feeling like you always get the short end of the stick, not enjoying sex, always finding something to criticize or feeling criticized, not quite attaining that sense of self-worth, people are always asking you to do more…..

Does any of this resonate with you?

Your subconscious is directing your life. Those are your core beliefs at work!

It’s really very simple. When you enter this planet as an infant, you are completely dependent on the adults around you to provide you with information. You are more open to learning than you will ever be. You absorb everything around you. More than that, everything you see and feel is your truth. The only truth you know.

If your parents struggle financially, you learn that it is difficult to make money.
If your parents argue constantly, you learn how to be in a relationship.
If you are reprimanded a lot, you learn to believe that you are not good enough.
If your sibling gets more attention than you for whatever reason, you learn to believe that you are not worth much.

Those are the beliefs you take out into the world. They do not disappear, they drive your life without your awareness.

If you find yourself being very suspicious of others, guess what is at work! If you are constantly struggling with something or more things in life, guess what…

That is why we can’t overcome our deepest beliefs with affirmations or visualizations, although they have their place and are useful.

You must work with your beliefs and perceptions, which reside in your subconscious mind.

I use a remarkable process, which allows you to quickly and painlessly change subconscious beliefs and facilitate positive change.

Free yourself from these limiting beliefs, break out of your prison, experience freedom!

Rob Williams, the founder of this process, says: “Research shows that PSYCH-K creates a Whole-Brain State, which in turn acts as a kind of “gateway to higher consciousness,” elevating thinking capacity to new levels of functionality and creativity.”

For scientific research about this process go to https://www.psych-k.com/psych-h-research

Mindfulness Success climate • east coast • energy • Europe • exotic islands • Happiness • location • mindfulness meditation • mindfulness practice • mindfulness training • mindfulness workshop • Self-improvement • vibration • weather • west coast March 18, 2015 By Christina de Valencia 0 Comments

Wherever you go, there you are…….NOT

Wherever you go, there you are, right? Sounds reasonable. After all, you are going, therefore you will find yourself there. Wherever that is.

Going to the supermarket? There you are. Going to Africa? There you are.

What if I said…. not so fast. Maybe you won’t find all of yourself there. Or you’ll find parts of yourself that you didn’t know existed.

People like to say that everything will be the same regardless of location. At least many people in my life have said that. I’ve been told that happiness is within and if you can’t be happy here, you won’t be happy anywhere.

Well, I am disputing that!

I haven’t attained enlightenment yet, so I am still working on finding the best way to maneuver through this life. And yes, I do know that happiness is ultimately within, but there are definitely some exterior circumstances affecting it.

This is what I have found.

Each location carries its own energy. It has its own frequency.

It is something we cannot see, but we have an awareness of it.

You have experienced vibrational energy when you think of times you entered a room full of people. Entering that room may have felt welcoming to you, because it was filled with happy people and positivity. It may have felt uptight, stressful and filled with nervous energy. It may have felt like there was a lot of anger and disappointment.

Whatever it was, you noticed. It affected you.

I use that example because each place on our planet carries its own type of energy based on local history, beliefs, way of life and the climate. Yes, the weather matters.

Compared to the US, Europeans, for example, have a completely different outlook on life, based on their history. That continent has experienced so much change and upheaval. It is like a really old person, who has had a long eventful life. That society has gone through being ruled by Kings and Emperors, Tyrants and modern day Politicians. It has gone through the Dark Ages, the Industrial Revolution, many, many wars, including WWI and WWII, famine, the Depression…….just to name a few. This past has affected the population, it is in their genes, their DNA. A child in Europe is born with that burden of his or her ancestors’ knowledge.

The people in Europe have a long past; hundreds, thousands of years. Going back to the Stone Age and further. It is all condensed and packed into that small continent. You can feel that.

Northern Europeans are generally more somber and intense. Customarily, they smile less and accept the difficulties of life more readily. They have their rules, manners and etiquette. They have their own type of humor, which is typically more sarcastic.

Southern Europeans have that history as well, but they have a warmer climate. Think of Italy, Spain and Greece for example. The energy there is distinctly different from the North. There is more laughter, dancing and an easier way of life layered on top of that somber, age old density of disappointment, pain and suffering.

The climate, as you see, plays a huge part in our lives.

When it is cold, we bundle up, huddle within ourselves and tensely focus on our outside chores to get them done quickly. We stick with what we know and don’t venture outside of that realm generally. The cold doesn’t invite an open, languid, leisurely way of life. Warmth and sunshine on the other hand, create a free, expansive environment. We like being outside, taking our time and being relaxed.

Each continent has its prevailing energy. Each country within that continent develops its own belief system and culture, which gives off its own variation of that energy. You can break that down again into states and counties even.

So, let’s say, you are from Minnesota and I am from Florida. Would you agree that we have a different outlook on life and therefore have our own distinctive spirit? If we each felt our very best in our home states, it’s reasonable to say that if you went to Florida, you might feel off and not totally yourself.

If your nature is open, sociable and active, you will probably feel really miserable in a place where people are closed, suspicious and keep to themselves.

I’ve talked to many people who took the risk to change their circumstances. People who didn’t do well where they were planted. They assumed that this was just the way it was. They had no idea that a change in location could change their lives.

One young man was a terrible student. He barely graduated High School, got into drugs and didn’t look forward to much. His days consisted of odd jobs and hanging out with like-minded buddies. Going to college was not a consideration. However, a few things occurred that caused him to explore a college in another state. He packed his beat up old jeep with a few belongings and moved. Today he is contemplating getting his PhD, is a spiritual, productive, active health nut and has tons of successful friends. He loves where he lives and knows this would not have happened in his place of origin.

An older Australian couple occasionally vacationed on an exotic island, while they were raising their kids. Life was a struggle, filled with somber, soul deadening jobs and chores. There was no lightness and even less laughter. As soon as the kids graduated and went out on their own, they left everything behind to move to that island. I met them surrounded by good friends in a room filled with laughter, anticipation and happiness. This couple had no idea how to make it financially. They sold their belongings and simply trusted that it would work out. It did!

A very successful American woman in her new location didn’t always experience life that way. She used to be married, was raising the kids while he worked and couldn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. All this while living in Europe. It should have been a dream come true. It wasn’t for her. She found herself at the end of her rope, packed up the kids and moved to the east coast of the US, which suited her so much better and she found her calling.

You probably know someone who took the chance to go somewhere else and it turned out to be the best move they made, because the energy in that new location suited their personality better.

This country has many different energies. The east is built on history, it is older, more set in its ways. It takes a while for a newcomer to be accepted. People typically keep to themselves and stick with the tried and true.

The west was settled by pioneers. Their very nature was curious, adventuresome, open, searching for a better life. It is still the place where most new thoughts and things originate; things that first appear unusual and weird are tried. Odd experiments are accepted and people connect more easily, because being open to new ways of doing things was essential in the pioneer days.

There isn’t really anything new in this universe, but that is another topic.

The point is: Location makes a difference! There are places on this planet that bring out our optimal personality. Places that actually make you more content and possibly happier. Your heart sings. Your life feels richer, more stimulating or peaceful, more joyful, which in turn makes you a more contributing, productive, loving member of society.

So don’t let anyone tell you, wherever you go, there you are. Explore for yourself! You might find you are not at all who you thought you were.